Dealing Effectively With Criticism

Don’t mind criticism! If it is untrue, disregard it. If it is unfair, ignore it. If it is justified, learn from it. If it is mean spirited, decide if it is beneficial to be in relationship with this person.

It is important to understand that criticism is an inevitable part of life. No one can please everyone all of the time. Don’t take criticism personally. Constructive criticism is generally directed at situations and behaviors, rather than directly at the person.

If the person’s motives are honorable, take the criticism in the spirit in which it was offered. Think of it as feedback that will provide you with growth opportunities, learn from it and improve yourself. Try not to argue with the person who criticizes you. Such arguments rarely solve anything. Ask questions that will help clarify the situation.

Generally it is not a good idea to offer criticism unless it is absolutely essential. If a person asks for your opinion, take your time before answering. Rushed answers don’t always come out the way you want them to. Be honest. Use the sandwich theory of offering you opinion: Say something positive, Say the negative or non positive thing and then say something positive again.

Hearing criticism about ourselves is often times difficult. My encouragement to you is to think of criticism at a Personal Growth Workshop, you will definitely learn something from what is being said. When someone criticizes you, take a moment and reflect on the words spoken and the ones you will speak, then respond.

Blessings,
Carol

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